I wrote last about letting go of envy and then I had a much bigger idea talking about strategy. However, I’ve been reading books about habit formation and how to change people’s actions. The conventional wisdom is you can’t, you have to make the person want to change. That’s a nice saying, but it doesn’t help much, as it doesn’t give insight into how to motivate someone to change. There’s a lot here, and out of us do it wrong, mainly because the most behavior change training we get comes from our parents who attempt to use punishment and shame as discipline. This rarely works.
The only way to get someone to change is to make the behavior you want them to do easy and help them feel successful. That’s it. It doesn’t matter if the person is successful only if they feel successful. The more you help with that, the easier it will be for you to help that person be successful.